Jumped Again! (Please Read need Advice)
It started again! This year SoccerBoy has been making all "A"s which is a good thing right. Yes! Except he's been dealing with a group of kids almost every day since school started. He comes home or his sister does and tells us, such and such was harrassing (making fun of, pushing, etc) SoccerBoy again. At this point there is nothing to do. I tell him, ignore them, they'll leave you alone. Or I say tell them to shut up.
A bit of history on my part and his. The hubby went over to Okinawa for basically two years (military) when our son was just turning one. I raised him and I tried teaching him right from wrong and explained fighting should never happen. Back when I was growing up this was the right thing to do. You walked away, you didn't throw the first punch, etc. However in today's society, this is not the right thing to teach your child.
Pointers that I have learned now: (Sorry, I know in my heart the below is wrong but I'm mad. Forgive me.)
- Don't teach your child not to fight, for it will be he that is beat up or jumped when it is time to go to school.
- Teach them to be the bully.
- Teach them how to fight, kick, punch, slap, kick-them-where-it-counts.
- Remember to walk home with only those that will jump into a fight. (obviously if you can't fight yourself)
- Go to the school immediately when your child starts a fight, it's the only way to win.
- Throw the first punch, it is the only way you won't get in trouble at school. Remember the one that doesn't strike back is the one that will be in trouble, cause he obviously started it.
Am I mad? No, I'm irate, my hands are shaking, my anger has mounted and I'd love to talk with these freakin' parents that teach their children that all the above it the right thing to do. Why? Because yesterday afternoon, my neighbor came over to inform me that she saw a HUGE crowd at the stables (half way between my house and the school) and my son was on the road getting beat up by two other kids. That's right, not a one-on-one fight but a two-on-one fight. No one for at least 5-10 minutes bothered to break this up, my son was indeed swinging his backpack in order to keep them off but refused to throw any punches.
His words to me, "Mom, there were parents. I knew if I swung I'd be the one to get in trouble."
Why should he feel that he can't protect himself when two others are beating him up? This is wrong, it should NOT happen. These two punks (yes I know it is wrong to call kids names but I'm pissed, I have a right at the moment.) decided to fight him. Why? Not exactly sure but ever since last year when I allowed him to have a mo-hawk these two (at the time there were three) kids have picked on him. He eventually asked me to cut the hawk but leave the tail. When I had Little A you may remember me stating he was jumped by three of them in front of the school. No one did anything about this. For it was not at the school he attends. Instead it was ignored. He begged me at that time to shave the tail. I've told him no, he loves it and he will keep it. I
told him to ignore the kids, it would stop.
Two months ago we noticed that someone at school had cut half his tail. I'm sorry but this is wrong. We had our ideas of who did it but never caught them so we couldn't take it any further.
I'm pissed parents were watching and no one broke it up. I'm pissed these two punks got away with it last year and are doing it this year. Why? Because my son told them to shut up. He knew by recess (hour after lunch) yesterday that they were going to fight him. He didn't want to tell on them. He hoped to get home before they were up there. He didn't. When my hubby found out he flew up to the stables but someone had apparently shouted police and the two on the bikes took off. I told my son not to talk about the incident at school today, not to kids, not to THE kids, not to teachers, parents or the principal. If he was called in give them my number.
My number was called. My number was called, the teacher had one of the parents come in today to tell about hte incident. Apparently her son got hurt. Hmm, does this mean that while he and another were jumping my son, his backpack actually nailed one of them? hehe, it is a little funny if you think about it. Two attacking and the one not fighting hurts the others that are with a backpack. They will call me back this afternoon to tell me what is going to happen.
Nothing better happen, unless it is those two boys getting suspended. My son did NOT fight back, I have several parents that will state this as they watched. (can't believe they watched) I'm so mad. What would you do? Don't say go in, been there done that....the school system SUCKS!
Slang:
jump (verb)- to attack. Normally when one jumps someone it is more than one person jumping in. In other words, two against one.
A bit of history on my part and his. The hubby went over to Okinawa for basically two years (military) when our son was just turning one. I raised him and I tried teaching him right from wrong and explained fighting should never happen. Back when I was growing up this was the right thing to do. You walked away, you didn't throw the first punch, etc. However in today's society, this is not the right thing to teach your child.
Pointers that I have learned now: (Sorry, I know in my heart the below is wrong but I'm mad. Forgive me.)
- Don't teach your child not to fight, for it will be he that is beat up or jumped when it is time to go to school.
- Teach them to be the bully.
- Teach them how to fight, kick, punch, slap, kick-them-where-it-counts.
- Remember to walk home with only those that will jump into a fight. (obviously if you can't fight yourself)
- Go to the school immediately when your child starts a fight, it's the only way to win.
- Throw the first punch, it is the only way you won't get in trouble at school. Remember the one that doesn't strike back is the one that will be in trouble, cause he obviously started it.
Am I mad? No, I'm irate, my hands are shaking, my anger has mounted and I'd love to talk with these freakin' parents that teach their children that all the above it the right thing to do. Why? Because yesterday afternoon, my neighbor came over to inform me that she saw a HUGE crowd at the stables (half way between my house and the school) and my son was on the road getting beat up by two other kids. That's right, not a one-on-one fight but a two-on-one fight. No one for at least 5-10 minutes bothered to break this up, my son was indeed swinging his backpack in order to keep them off but refused to throw any punches.
His words to me, "Mom, there were parents. I knew if I swung I'd be the one to get in trouble."
Why should he feel that he can't protect himself when two others are beating him up? This is wrong, it should NOT happen. These two punks (yes I know it is wrong to call kids names but I'm pissed, I have a right at the moment.) decided to fight him. Why? Not exactly sure but ever since last year when I allowed him to have a mo-hawk these two (at the time there were three) kids have picked on him. He eventually asked me to cut the hawk but leave the tail. When I had Little A you may remember me stating he was jumped by three of them in front of the school. No one did anything about this. For it was not at the school he attends. Instead it was ignored. He begged me at that time to shave the tail. I've told him no, he loves it and he will keep it. I
told him to ignore the kids, it would stop.
Two months ago we noticed that someone at school had cut half his tail. I'm sorry but this is wrong. We had our ideas of who did it but never caught them so we couldn't take it any further.
I'm pissed parents were watching and no one broke it up. I'm pissed these two punks got away with it last year and are doing it this year. Why? Because my son told them to shut up. He knew by recess (hour after lunch) yesterday that they were going to fight him. He didn't want to tell on them. He hoped to get home before they were up there. He didn't. When my hubby found out he flew up to the stables but someone had apparently shouted police and the two on the bikes took off. I told my son not to talk about the incident at school today, not to kids, not to THE kids, not to teachers, parents or the principal. If he was called in give them my number.
My number was called. My number was called, the teacher had one of the parents come in today to tell about hte incident. Apparently her son got hurt. Hmm, does this mean that while he and another were jumping my son, his backpack actually nailed one of them? hehe, it is a little funny if you think about it. Two attacking and the one not fighting hurts the others that are with a backpack. They will call me back this afternoon to tell me what is going to happen.
Nothing better happen, unless it is those two boys getting suspended. My son did NOT fight back, I have several parents that will state this as they watched. (can't believe they watched) I'm so mad. What would you do? Don't say go in, been there done that....the school system SUCKS!
Slang:
jump (verb)- to attack. Normally when one jumps someone it is more than one person jumping in. In other words, two against one.
Labels: bullies, fighting, jumping, kid beat up, school fight
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I would take him out of that school. I would also file a police report with the names and numbers of the witnesses, to prove your son was right and the other parents will have no leverage on your son...show them just how bad their child really is.
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: 12:42 PM
: 12:42 PM
I still think this is such crap especially parents watching it. How ignorant!
I'd tell you to file with the police too but I know you are moving soon and probably don't want to start something right before getting out of there. Maybe look into it though because if they jumped your son and get away with it then they'll do it to someone else you know?
I'd tell you to file with the police too but I know you are moving soon and probably don't want to start something right before getting out of there. Maybe look into it though because if they jumped your son and get away with it then they'll do it to someone else you know?
1 - Parents watching?!?!?! Um, I think I would have had to "let loose" on them!
2 - My son would be taken out of school. Period. I will file whatever appeals I had to get him in another school. Honestly, at the point you are at now, I would even consider private schooling....
I am not tolerant at ALL to bullying. Our family has not had to deal with the level of bullying you are going through.
I will give you the ONE time I have had to deal with bullying...
Once, my 7-year-old comes home and says...
"Mom, I met a bully today"
I say "Really, how do you know they were a bully?"
He says "Well, we were in line & he was sticking his foot out and trying to trip me each time I walked, and kept he laughing about it."
Obviously this is so trivial compared to what your son had happen to him, BUT that is not the point, I want you to know this -
I went to the school and the principal called that child in and he was given a punishment after admitting what he'd done.
The only reason I did this was I wanted "on" record this child had "teased" my son. Just in case anything happened in the future.
If I were you there would be no doubt to file your own report on the incident. Get this on record.
I am so sorry your family is dealing with this!
2 - My son would be taken out of school. Period. I will file whatever appeals I had to get him in another school. Honestly, at the point you are at now, I would even consider private schooling....
I am not tolerant at ALL to bullying. Our family has not had to deal with the level of bullying you are going through.
I will give you the ONE time I have had to deal with bullying...
Once, my 7-year-old comes home and says...
"Mom, I met a bully today"
I say "Really, how do you know they were a bully?"
He says "Well, we were in line & he was sticking his foot out and trying to trip me each time I walked, and kept he laughing about it."
Obviously this is so trivial compared to what your son had happen to him, BUT that is not the point, I want you to know this -
I went to the school and the principal called that child in and he was given a punishment after admitting what he'd done.
The only reason I did this was I wanted "on" record this child had "teased" my son. Just in case anything happened in the future.
If I were you there would be no doubt to file your own report on the incident. Get this on record.
I am so sorry your family is dealing with this!
My first thought was to file a police report. It is the only way anybody is going to do anything to help your son.
First off, grrrrr! PARENTS were watching?? What is that teaching the kids when a parent sits there and watches a poor little guy get beat by TWO others. You are definately justified in your anger. Now, I will say that I dealt with bullying when I was in high school. I was raised the same way you raised your son (which, IMHO is the correct way to raise a child.) My mom always tried to jump in and go to the school which only made things harder on me because then the kids would tease me further. But, even though it made it tougher on me, I'm glad she did it because it showed me she was standing up for me. Will your son go to the teachers or principal and report the bullying? One time in high school I got jumped. My mom took me down to the police station and filed a restraining order against the main girl that did the jumping. She couldn't come near me whatsoever. That may be an idea for you to think about.
Good luck, this is such a heartbreaking situation.
Good luck, this is such a heartbreaking situation.
Did you file that police report yet? You have to file the police report and if you haven't done that already be sure and do it today!
Wow.. I cannot even believe there were parents standing by and they did nothing to stop this! I hope your son is doing okay. What a tramatic experience, which will stick with him throughout his life. I do hope it turns out to be a good lesson in the long run. Children can be so cruel, and some parents must either encourage it, or they just don't care.
This is why I homeschool my daughter. I know these children are just young and need to be taught right from wrong, but not at the expense of my child.
Take care and good luck with this.
Teri
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This is why I homeschool my daughter. I know these children are just young and need to be taught right from wrong, but not at the expense of my child.
Take care and good luck with this.
Teri
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parents stand by b/c it's not THEIR child. some parents stand by b/c they like to watch their child beat up other children, too.
taking him out of the school and putting him in another wont make bullies stop being bullies. i was bullied and went to at least 3 different schools. the kids might not be the same, but they were still bullies.
it's sad. no one wants to get involved for so many reasons. schools would rather not b/c they dont want to be implicated legally. now you have to take the parents to court in order to get justice...
didnt used to be that way. i hope you find something suitable to do about this and that justice is done in your son's case.
taking him out of the school and putting him in another wont make bullies stop being bullies. i was bullied and went to at least 3 different schools. the kids might not be the same, but they were still bullies.
it's sad. no one wants to get involved for so many reasons. schools would rather not b/c they dont want to be implicated legally. now you have to take the parents to court in order to get justice...
didnt used to be that way. i hope you find something suitable to do about this and that justice is done in your son's case.
Those parents who were just watching that happen but didn't do anything should be smacked upside their heads! Seriously, would they want other parents to just watch if their kids were being taunted, harassed and abused?
It's RIDICULOUS....
I hope you find a solution to this problem.... and I sincerely hope your son is doing well.
It's RIDICULOUS....
I hope you find a solution to this problem.... and I sincerely hope your son is doing well.
Sadly this same thing happened to a boy in our church. His parents wound up taking him out of the school and homeschooling him for three years.
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